Turkish Title: Konuşmamız Lazım
Original Title: Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married
Author: Gary Chapman
Gary Chapman, most recognized for his New York Times bestseller, The Five Love Languages, has written a book he wishes he had read before he got married. He believes that many marital struggles and divorces can be avoided if couples prepare more for their married lives before saying, "I do." This book offers a treasure trove of tools and tips for a successful marriage.
"Most people spend far more time in preparation for their vocation than they do in preparation for marriage,” No wonder the divorce rate hovers around fifty percent.
Bestselling author and marriage counselor, Gary Chapman, hopes to change that with his newest book. Gary, with more than 35 years of counseling couples, believes that divorce is the lack of preparation for marriage and the failure to learn the skills of working together as intimate teammates. So he put together this practical little book, packed with wisdom and tips that will help many develop the loving, supportive and mutually beneficial marriage men and women long for.
This is not a book simply to be read. It is a book to be experienced. The material lends itself to heart-felt discussions by dating or engaged couples. To jump-start the exchanges, each short chapter includes insightful “Talking it Over” questions and suggestions.
Chapman says: For a long time I have been wanting to write a book for singles that would help them in the dating process and in getting ready for marriage. Most of my writing, I’ve written to couples who are already married, because I’ve been doing marriage counseling for 35 years.
I realized that most couples today are not going to work through a heavy duty pre-marriage program. I wish they would, but they’re not. So I wrote this book on a rather light level. The chapters are short, but very pointed, very personal, growing out of my own life, as well as the counseling I’ve done through the years, trying to help couples who are deciding, “Should we marry? Should we not marry?” And if they’ve decided to get married, then let’s get ready for this thing. Let’s prepare for the marriage. I’m not going to help them prepare for the wedding. They can do that on their own. I’m going to help them get ready for the marriage. I certainly know that if I had known the 12 things I deal with in this book before we got married, our lives, our marriage would have been a lot easier.